Couples
Here you can read about various aspects of coupled relationships: conflict, emotional connection, trust, communication, sex, finances, etc.
All Couples Posts
Perpetual Relationship Problems
Marriage and couples counselor Trey Duckett discusses recurring relationship conflict and what to do about it.
Sex After Dark: That event you were embarrassed to go to
For years, I have been aware of the annual (except for COVID) Sex After Dark event IUSB Residence Life hosts. I wasn't sure what to expect when I agreed to serve on the panel. I am usually speaking about sex to couples who are at least in their 30s.
Is your relationship suffering from gridlocked, escalating conflict?
If so, you may be worried about the health and future of your relationship. And for good reason! Contentious, gridlocked conflict often includes criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and even contempt. These four elements have been forebodingly dubbed the “four horseman of the apocalypse” by relationship experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman of The Gottman Institute—because they […]
Warning Signs Of Abusive Relationships
View original WNDU story Lindsay Stone came to my office for an interview on camera about abusive relationships. She put together a two-part story on a dramatic love triangle that captured the public’s attention. It was an excellent opportunity to share some important information about patterns of abuse and the very high risk […]
Web of Betrayal: Warning Signs Of Abusive Relationships
Lindsay Stone came to my office for an interview on camera about abusive relationships. She put together a two-part story on a dramatic love triangle that captured the public’s attention. It was an excellent opportunity to share some important information about patterns of abuse and the very high risk when a partner decides to leave […]
Web of betrayal: Warning signs of abusive relationships
Focus Your Conflict
In this video, Esther Perel is a fresh and honest voice pointing out a common trap in relationship conflict. Stick to the topic! Focus. Go for depth, not breadth in your conflict. This is one of the top three rules of doing conflict well and Esther Perel is right on the money here. Enjoy the […]
Fight Smarter: Put Escalating Fights on Ice - YouTube
Have you ever been in a fight that started with something small, and devolved into a full-on attack on every single thing your partner has ever done wrong? T......
Two of the most robust predictors of failed marriage
I almost passed on this phone interview because it isn’t the kind of press that usually contacts me. But I was very impressed Lemuel Monterro was writing about divorce in a regional wedding magazine. So much romanticized aesthetic and ceremonial work goes into a wedding, supporting an entire industry. Often neglected is a financial investment […]
Two Questions that Reveal If You'll Be Happily Ever After