Couples
Here you can read about various aspects of coupled relationships: conflict, emotional connection, trust, communication, sex, finances, etc.
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Managing Conflict
Marriage and couples counselor Trey Duckett discusses managing relationship conflict.
Why does my partner keep shutting down, and what can I do?
Marriage and couples counselor Sara Baxter discusses why our partner might be shutting down, and what we can do about it.
Moving Past Resentment
Marriage and couples counselor Sara Baxter discusses how to move past resentment in our relationships.
What Happens in Marriage Counseling?
What To Expect in Couples and Marriage Counseling Family Psychology of South Bend comes from a tradition of clinicians who try to demystify counseling and psychology, thus the straight forward topic of today’s article about marriage counseling. I want to begin with some words from the famous psychiatrist Alfred Adler often quoted by my mentors. He […]
Anatomy of Marriage
Divorce and marital satisfaction are not in the stars or a matter of luck. They are highly predictable. In fact it is embarrassingly rare for clinical psychology to be able to predict much, but divorce and marriage satisfaction is are stunning exceptions. Jon Gottman’s research in particular has helped us understand every strong intimate relationship […]
Emotional Unavailability – When Your Partner Can’t Connect
When we commit to a relationship, we usually expect that our partner will reciprocate with roughly the same level of emotional involvement that we put into it. Many of us hope to find a soulmate, a partner who can share and understand our feelings and ways of thinking on an intensely personal level. Others don’t […]
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Perpetual Problems
Marriage and couples counselor Trey Duckett discusses recurring relationship conflict and what to do about it.
Sex After Dark: That event you were embarrassed to go to
Sex After Dark: That event you were embarrassed to go to For years, I have been aware of the annual (except for COVID) Sex After Dark event IUSB Residence Life hosts. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I agreed to serve on the panel. I am usually speaking about sex to couples who are […]
Is your relationship suffering from gridlocked, escalating conflict?
If so, you may be worried about the health and future of your relationship. And for good reason! Contentious, gridlocked conflict often includes criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and even contempt. These four elements have been forebodingly dubbed the “four horseman of the apocalypse” by relationship experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman of The Gottman Institute—because they […]
Warning Signs Of Abusive Relationships
View original WNDU story Lindsay Stone came to my office for an interview on camera about abusive relationships. She put together a two-part story on a dramatic love triangle that captured the public’s attention. It was an excellent opportunity to share some important information about patterns of abuse and the very high risk […]
Web of Betrayal: Warning Signs Of Abusive Relationships
Lindsay Stone came to my office for an interview on camera about abusive relationships. She put together a two-part story on a dramatic love triangle that captured the public’s attention. It was an excellent opportunity to share some important information about patterns of abuse and the very high risk when a partner decides to leave […]
Web of betrayal: Warning signs of abusive relationships
Focus Your Conflict
In this video, Esther Perel is a fresh and honest voice pointing out a common trap in relationship conflict. Stick to the topic! Focus. Go for depth, not breadth in your conflict. This is one of the top three rules of doing conflict well and Esther Perel is right on the money here. Enjoy the […]
Fight Smarter: Put Escalating Fights on Ice - YouTube
Have you ever been in a fight that started with something small, and devolved into a full-on attack on every single thing your partner has ever done wrong? T......